This post comes from an anonymous sugar daddy in his 40s who took the time to share his experiences and opinions about dating sugar babies on sugar daddy site and what he thinks is sexy. So, as a sugar baby, how do you figure out what sugar daddies find attractive about you? Do you compare actresses you see in TV shows or movies? Or do you have your own internal standards? In fact, study after study shows that women consistently underestimate the fact that men prefer their bodies. If your sugar daddy told you were attractive, would you believe him? If the answer is close to no, you'd better read this article.
What's the sugar daddy attracted to, and not attracted to? Seriously, there's a big difference between what sugar babies think sugar daddies are attracted to and what they actually are. Unfortunately, many sugar babies seem to think that sugar daddies find super-skinny girls particularly attractive. However, in study after study, women consistently underestimate men's preference for fleshy bodies. Yes, when asked what bodies sugar daddies find most attractive, most sugar babies mistakenly think sugar daddies prefer slim girls, but the opposite is true.
There are differences between what sugar daddies and sugar babies find attractive, but there are two qualities that are consistent and you can control: warmth and femininity. During my sugar daddy date, I met different types of sugar babies, and it wasn't long before I noticed a pattern:
Almost all sugar babies attack their appearance in one way or another. At first I thought it was self-deprecating humor, but soon I realized that these sugar babies really care about their appearance, they are really not confident and have negative feelings about themselves. To make matters worse, no amount of praise I could give them would change their minds, and the compliment was quickly dismissed. As time went on, it became more extreme. Sugar babies' negative feelings can build up, and they may even be unreasonable enough to point out flaws that don't exist, when in fact they can't imagine them. They would point to something and say, "look, this is what I said .Do you see it?" I would say, "no, honestly, I didn't see it" (because it wasn't there). But they still won't believe me. It feels so irrational and out of control. It's crazy. The truth is, I'm a man, I really know what men like, and any of these sugar babies would be considered by men to be extremely beautiful.
Why ask them out if I don't find them attractive? As a sugar daddy, I'm not saying that men don't like slender fashion models, but that they make us dull and conflicted. Oddly, little quirks, such as snouts, freckles and crow's feet around the corners of the eyes, can actually benefit women. Men are men, and their rudeness never ends with age. We're just more cautious. When looking at a thinner woman, half of men will say "not for me, I want someone I can catch". Or, always romantically, "I want someone with meat on their bones."We don't have "types."Even when we say we do, we every day "make an exception, just this once."If you look at the different types of sugar babies I've dated, they look completely different. Different heights, shapes, ages, races. Each person finds something attractive differently, and it changes with time and place. But the bottom line is that sugar daddies find two qualities attractive which we've already mentioned. There are two things you can absolutely control: warmth and gentleness. As a sugar daddy in my 40s who dates regularly, I can tell you that men can't resist a good flirt. No matter what you look like or if we know what you're doing, we're attracted to your flirting. So, by the way, it's worth honing your flirting skills.
Use real photos and be confident. If you met sugar daddy online, the first date might be to see if you really look like your profile photo. I'd like to say that almost half of the women on the Internet don't look close to their photos, so ladies, please do us both a favor and take my advice and update your online photos. If you're going out with a sugar daddy for the third time who thinks you're very attractive, then the second date may be the final decision on whether to agree or disagree. He may find you attractive, or he may be thinking of putting you to bed. This negative self-image can be devastating, not just for you, but for any sugar daddy who wants to date you. Sugar babies, who have such negative self-images, would almost rather end a relationship than risk being seen naked by their partners. It's outrageous, but it's true. I've had several promising relationships with some of the best sugar babies, only to have them abruptly terminated for reasons I strongly suspect are relevant. So confidence is the most important thing.
As I mentioned before, men's minds are pretty primitive. After the third date, he'll think about you naked. But he's really thinking about you, and probably every few minutes. You're so worried about how we'll react when we see you naked? In fact, we know what you're going to look like, but the sooner you see it, the better. Even if you're out of shape, or you have surgery scars or are overweight. Again, we don't care.
Accept that men are not always liars. Accept that when men compliment you, they mean it and accept it graciously. Men are visual creatures, and since they ask you out because they find you attractive. Remember, the factors that have the biggest impact on attractiveness are under your control: they are your enthusiasm and femininity.
So..What do you think? Have you ever met a sugar daddy on some popular dating site who was interested in you but ignored or rejected him out of disbelief? How can you take compliments from others? Now, do you feel a little confident? If so, go on a happy date! If not, please share your thoughts below!