Why online sugar dating isn't working for you and what you should do? In the Part I of this article, we've put forward two reasons why online sugar dating doesn't work for you. Here are some other reasons that dating experts say online dating doesn't work for you, and that tend to older sugar daddies:
Something better just a click away Do you know the app Tinder? Over the past few years, it has become the poster child for a relatively new phenomenon: the free dating app. These apps don't charge (or charge only a small percentage of users), but rely on other ways to make money from a large user base. After years of predatory behavior and questionable business practices on all the major paid dating sites, it's not surprising that price-sensitive consumers are flocking to these apps. Unfortunately, this exposes them to another danger of online dating: the constant suggestion that something better is just around the corner. After all, online dating is greedy, a digital menu of people waiting to be chosen or ignored. And the convenience factor. It's easy to get carried away by instant gratification.
But the problem is not just instant gratification. Without financial demands, free websites will naturally attract more people who are not really committed to finding a real relationship. That's why you can't find the right people on some professional online sugar dating sites. They're all gone somewhere else. Is it any wonder that by inviting users to explore a world of unlimited choice with no consequences, it is hard to find anyone interested in the hard work of an actual relationship? Anyone you meet on a free app is trained to believe there's always a better one, just click away. When they don't think you're perfect, their interest in you will wane, and they'll connect with the next person, after all, they prefer the free site.
The algorithm doesn't work Did you know there's no evidence that online dating algorithms work? Yes, despite claims by industry leaders such as Match and eHarmony how matching algorithms work, consistent findings from researchers and sociologists over the past 20 years, most notably a large study published in 2012 in the association for psychological science, show that matching algorithms don't work at all.
This may explain the rise of apps like Tinder, which have completely abandoned algorithms and relied on the ability to make quick judgments based solely on appearance. (this, of course, raises a host of scary questions, but at least Tinder isn't promising that its algorithm will make decisions for you, and that you will make them based on what you see.) So one of the reasons online dating algorithms don't work is that it doesn't work for you.
Fakes and hypocrisy According to research and statistics, no matter which dating site. You can't avoid the fact that at least 10 percent of your personal dating profile is fake. Considering that most fake profiles are created by scammers and criminals who try to steal information or cheat money from people they meet, the rate is surprisingly high. Would you leave your front door if you knew that at least 10 percent of the people you might meet online wanted to steal from you? No, neither can I.
No one is the best version of themselves on a date Imagine sitting down for a drink or dinner with someone you met on an online sugar daddy dating site for the first time. Most sugar daddies often have pre-emptive anxiety: they think their date is judging you, just as you are judging them. Fear of awkward small talk. Fear of not going well.
"Know you" questions are designed to let you know if you're a good fit for the job and the stress of knowing that if you say the wrong thing, everything will go awry. The voice behind your head says, "get me out of here!" Is it any wonder you weren't at your best on a date? The same goes for everyone you date. However, no one seems to be stopping us from going on these awkward, boring and painful dates in search of a suitable mate. Your best self is usually when you're not stressed or worried about being judged, and you're doing something you really enjoy. But for most people, a first date is not one of those things.
Okay, so what do we do? I'm sure, and I'm sorry, that you're now completely disappointed in your chances of success through online sugar dating because of me. But it's important not to get too frustrated. After all, we know that more and more people are finding success online. Failure is only part of the picture. We should look at the positive side. Online sugar dating may fail, but that doesn't mean you still can't find the person you're looking for, you just need to use different methods. I have a solution for each of the problems listed above. If you take one approach to every problem, you will give yourself a good chance to find the right partner. Let's look at them in turn:
The filter doesn't work... So stop filtering Now that you know that if the filter doesn't give you opportunities but reduces them, the solution is simple: turn off your filter. I don't mean to go to your favorite sugar dating site and turn off all the filtering it offers. I mean, change your overall attitude toward potential partners.
Do they really need to be college students? Or is their primary focus now mentally enough to do what you want?
Do they really need to live nearby? Or are they willing to travel to meet you enough?
Do they really need a professional background? Or more importantly, do they have a positive attitude?
Challenge some of the assumptions you have about who is right for you. Don't shut people out just because they don't live up to your expectations. They might just be the right person for you. If you start to remove some of the subliminal filters that you use on the people you're looking for, you'll see your chances of success go from one in a million to a more reasonable level.
In today's world it's hard to meet the right person, so online sugar dating is really worth a try. Even though it doesn't work for some people, read on the Part III to find out more amazing things! Come on!